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To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.

I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.

And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?

So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.

Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-

6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.

6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.

A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?

Rapists do.

They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.

Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.

If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.

But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.

And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?

That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.

You. The rapist’s comrade.

And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…

Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.

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How do you find so much confidence? I really admire that
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I meant that nicely. I didnt mean that you dont have every right to be confident. I just admire you so much

Aww, aren’t you a cutie! 

Hm… I used to be really awkward and self-conscious all throughout my childhood/teenage years and I didn’t really get over it until I left high school in the second half of my senior year. I don’t know exactly how it happened, but during that time I kind of just… stopped caring what other people thought of me (appearance-wise; I get really paranoid about people thinking I’m mean).

I think my confidence stems from having a personal style that I feel works for me. Red lipstick, pencil skirts, ‘cupcake’ style dresses, and curled hair were all things that I was initially terrified of when I first started dipping into them. I was going literally from band tees and chucks to circle skirts and heels, but I loved the look and I was determined not to let my insecurity hold me back.

I still experience moments of doubt sometimes. When I first bought my high-waisted jeans, I was afraid of what people would think if I wore them out. However I thought they looked super cute, so I kinda just sucked it up and wore them to the mall and now I’m over it. If something makes you feel good about yourself, embrace it! Don’t let anyone, especially yourself, get you down!

I could tell nikkisavage and I were going to be friends the second she said “I want you to meet my cats.”

drunktrophywife:

If you don’t think I’m cute that’s your problem not mine

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nikkisavage:

Had such a wonderful time with vickytremor yesterday at Disneyland! She’s so awesome! I’m glad we share the love for Captain America.

Internet friends~~~

I fell in love with #captainamerica (who was totally sweet on me by the way) and @nikkixsavage laughed at how nervous I was -_- #disneyland

I fell in love with #captainamerica (who was totally sweet on me by the way) and @nikkixsavage laughed at how nervous I was -_- #disneyland

I also saw my boyfriend #captainamerica and accidentally elbowed him while trying to salute… #disneyland

I also saw my boyfriend #captainamerica and accidentally elbowed him while trying to salute… #disneyland

I met internet friend @nikkixsavage at #Disneyland and she’s super cute and super sweet!!! She’s in the middle of eating a pretzel but still a cutie!

I met internet friend @nikkixsavage at #Disneyland and she’s super cute and super sweet!!! She’s in the middle of eating a pretzel but still a cutie!